Banned from friending people on Facebook because I friended people on Facebook

facebook_friendLike most people who love to use social media I’m on Facebook all the time. And like most other social media websites I invite or “friend” people that share the same interest I do. So I was shocked when I receive a notice form Facebook saying, I have been banned from requesting new fiends for 30-days.

Really? Why? I don’t recall sending anyone a friend request in the least two weeks on Facebook.

The notice also said, I can only friend request people I actually know personally.

Well that’s a slap in the face to those of us who are seeking out other people who share similar interest and hobbies. Not to mention if you play any of the online games supported by Facebook. I don’t think I know more than 3 out of the dozens of people I play against in Words with Friends.

I decided to look up Facebook’s rules regarding friending people. The statements below were taken word for word from Facebook’s own web site.

Why am I blocked from sending friend requests?
If your account is temporarily blocked from sending friend requests, it’s because friend requests you’ve sent have gone unanswered or been marked as unwelcome. From now on, please don’t send friend requests to people you don’t know personally. Facebook is a place for connecting with friends, family, classmates, coworkers and other people you know well.
Who should I send friend requests to?
Facebook is a place for connecting with friends, family, and other people you know personally. You should send friend requests to people you have a real-life connection to, like your friends, family, coworkers, or classmates.

So apparently those people on Facebook who have thousands of friends are actually family, classmates and coworkers? I don’t think so.

Then I saw this Facebook rule.

Who can send me friend requests?
By default, anyone on Facebook can send you a friend request.

Wait! “Anyone” can send you a friend request? But that conflicts with the other rules. Obviously this rule has not been thoroughly thought out, or at the very least updated.

I understand the point Facebook is trying to make. They want to reduce spam as much as possible. But most of us are harmless. We are just looking to make new friends or at the very least new people to chat with online.

The system that monitors who friends who appears to be automated, a conclusion I came to after reading this statement on Facebook’s website.

If you’ve been blocked by mistake, we won’t be able to end the block early—but you’ll be able to send friend requests again soon. We’re sorry for the inconvenience! In the meantime, you can still use other Facebook features to connect with your confirmed friends.

Disgruntled I tried to reach out to Facebook but they provide little if any practical way to communicate our problems to them. No email, phone number or even an online form which would be the most logical way to do it. And the fact that they say, “we won’t be able to end the block early” just tells me they have no interest, at this time, in dealing with it.

It seems unfortunately that all any of us can do who have been blocked is just wait it out and hope it does not happen again.

A couple of other Facebook rules regarding friending people you mite want to read.

Social media junkie

Do you Twitter and Facebook all day and night? Do you log into multiple social media sites and write blogs? Then you mite be a social media junkie.

My first social media experience began in the late 1980s with a Bulletin Board System or BBS for short. Using a phone line and modem a user could log into the system using a terminal program. Many BBSes offered on-line games, chat rooms, and file sharing. The technology was very limited and the only thing you would see on your monitor was text and ASCII characters. Sorry, no photos or graphics. This was the dark ages.

In 2001 I dabbled with instant messaging. But I was not too keen on it.

My next fling with social media was around 2006 when I heard about MySpace. An interesting idea of socializing with photos, music, and messages posted on a wall for everyone to see. It was a cool idea so I dove right in. However after a little more than a year I found myself spending less and less time on MySpace. The design and layout seemed childlike for me and most of my friends wanted nothing to do with it. So I eventually abandoned MySpace.

Note: MySpace redesigned its site in 2010. It has a more modern look with entertainment as the corner-stone of its content.

Bulletin Board System

Bulletin Board System

In 2008 I was at work when I learned about Twitter. Several employees had started using the site and said it was an interesting way to communicate. Around the same time I also started using Facebook. At first I did not give either site much attention. I would twitter this and facebook that from time to time but that was it.

It was not until 2009, that I realized the growing popularity of Facebook and Twitter. I even went as far to suggest to my boss that we start posting information about our business on Facebook. We were already using Twitter.

With most of my friends on Facebook, some on Twitter and part of my responsibilities at work to update the two, I decided to dive head first into social media.

Today I currently log into 18 different social media sites, with Facebook, Twitter and Foursquare as my top three. I also use and read social bookmarking & social news sites like, Delicious, StumbleUpon, Digg and Reddit. I follow several blogs and forums and write my own blog, “My Digital Desktop” with plans for a second called “Jaydon’s Corner.”

I can honestly say I went from someone who saw very little in social media to being a big supporter and contributor of it.

Below is a list of social media sites I visit and participate in. Perhaps I’ll see you on one.

The Hotlist
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