Banned from friending people on Facebook because I friended people on Facebook

facebook_friendLike most people who love to use social media I’m on Facebook all the time. And like most other social media websites I invite or “friend” people that share the same interest I do. So I was shocked when I receive a notice form Facebook saying, I have been banned from requesting new fiends for 30-days.

Really? Why? I don’t recall sending anyone a friend request in the least two weeks on Facebook.

The notice also said, I can only friend request people I actually know personally.

Well that’s a slap in the face to those of us who are seeking out other people who share similar interest and hobbies. Not to mention if you play any of the online games supported by Facebook. I don’t think I know more than 3 out of the dozens of people I play against in Words with Friends.

I decided to look up Facebook’s rules regarding friending people. The statements below were taken word for word from Facebook’s own web site.

Why am I blocked from sending friend requests?
If your account is temporarily blocked from sending friend requests, it’s because friend requests you’ve sent have gone unanswered or been marked as unwelcome. From now on, please don’t send friend requests to people you don’t know personally. Facebook is a place for connecting with friends, family, classmates, coworkers and other people you know well.
Who should I send friend requests to?
Facebook is a place for connecting with friends, family, and other people you know personally. You should send friend requests to people you have a real-life connection to, like your friends, family, coworkers, or classmates.

So apparently those people on Facebook who have thousands of friends are actually family, classmates and coworkers? I don’t think so.

Then I saw this Facebook rule.

Who can send me friend requests?
By default, anyone on Facebook can send you a friend request.

Wait! “Anyone” can send you a friend request? But that conflicts with the other rules. Obviously this rule has not been thoroughly thought out, or at the very least updated.

I understand the point Facebook is trying to make. They want to reduce spam as much as possible. But most of us are harmless. We are just looking to make new friends or at the very least new people to chat with online.

The system that monitors who friends who appears to be automated, a conclusion I came to after reading this statement on Facebook’s website.

If you’ve been blocked by mistake, we won’t be able to end the block early—but you’ll be able to send friend requests again soon. We’re sorry for the inconvenience! In the meantime, you can still use other Facebook features to connect with your confirmed friends.

Disgruntled I tried to reach out to Facebook but they provide little if any practical way to communicate our problems to them. No email, phone number or even an online form which would be the most logical way to do it. And the fact that they say, “we won’t be able to end the block early” just tells me they have no interest, at this time, in dealing with it.

It seems unfortunately that all any of us can do who have been blocked is just wait it out and hope it does not happen again.

A couple of other Facebook rules regarding friending people you mite want to read.


About Chris Hall
Hi, I'm Chris, also know as Daddy from the blog "The Adventures of Jaydon and Daddy." I am a stay-at-home dad who loves spending time with my son Jaydon. In my spare time I work evenings and weekends at the Charleston County Library. Be sure to check out our blog, "The Adventures of Jaydon and Daddy."

8 Responses to Banned from friending people on Facebook because I friended people on Facebook

  1. FACEBOOK BANS FRIEND REQUESTING I created this group because I, like so many thousands or millions of members of Facebook, have regularly been banned from sending friend requests for various periods of time from 2 days all the way up to 30 days, and some have been banned numerous times. We understand that Facebook set these systems up to try and prevent spamming and other unwanted practices from taking place, but unfortunately, innocent people are suffering as a result, getting banned indiscriminately, when they shouldn’t. Add to this is the fact that there is no way at this time to contact Facebook as their Customer Service seems to be non-existent.

    I’m hoping that enough of us can band together, share insights, strategies and experiences so that we may be able to solve this very annoying situation. At the very least it’s designed to be a place for people to find encouragement, support and advice on how to proceed. Please, when you get a chance, share your particular experience and any insights you’ve gained along the way. If we combine our efforts we might be able to solve this annoying problem in a spirit of tact and civility. All I ask is that there be NO CURSING, NO DRAMA, NO FIGHTING, NO POLITICS & NO RELIGION, only issues related to this banning practice by Facebook and related Facebook issues Look around, check out the back room photos and the comments connected to them as well as explore the conversations down the wall. There is a wealth of information, which is continually growing. There is power in knowledge. We even have a group Petition that you may sign with your own particular situation or complaints. I always say that the learning is in the process, and this is certainly a work in progress. I look forward to everyone’s input and suggestions.

    Petition link:

  2. I have a confession. I, too, have been banned. The first banning was when I joined FB (back when it was called Facebook, not FB). I thought I would introduce myself to all my neighbors, everyone in Goose Creek, SC that was on the site with me, and everyone that worked at my company.

    Needless to say I was SHOCKED when my account was banned for trying to be a good neighbor and make new friends!

    Another time I was banned briefly helping a friend make new friends. Now this one was rather legit. He was running for office and we tried to friend a ton of peeps who were at a particular conference with us. Even spread over several days, we got the 2-week ban slap.

    The last time I was disciplined was last year. All I did was tag a handful of real, true friends & family on a motivation sticker that said, “You Are Beautiful, Pass It On.” It WAS beautiful, I DID pass it on, and got banned x2 days.

    The last banning was ridiculous. They were my real friends. My real, blood family.

    In conclusion, all I can say is – Whatever. FB is free of charge. It’s fun. We have to abide by their rules even if some of them are a bit contrived.

    • I have been banned from making friend requests, just this minute, it’s so annoying. When the ban is lifted, I will send you a friend request 🙂 I hope you don’t mind.

  3. I too have been banned, for either friending people or for adding to many people to quickly. I own a small business and play games so I get invites pretty frequently. This latest ban was the last straw for me. What’s the point of a social site when your not allowed to socialize? I have quit facebook and gone to google+, where you can be friended or friend as many people as you want. I keep hoping more people join me. Enough is Enough!

    • Rykel says:

      I am coming over to Google+ too because I am SICK AND TIRED of Facebook auto bans. I only hope that Google+ will not go the Facebook nonsensical ways because then our Gmails and Google Photos will be blocked out from us as well…

      Exactly like you said – why a social network where you are not allowed to socialise? Why force our messages into the “Others” Inbox so that Facebook can force us to PAY for sending messages to friends who are waiting for our very messages? Why does Facebook play God when USERS themselves can ban those whom they wish to ban? Indeed, why are such users on Facebook in the very first place? If you do not wish to be befriended…well, you should know what to do.

      P/S. Why does this blog NOT allow me to log in through my Google account to leave a Comment??

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  5. I would like the list you displayed when I first got on FB about who reported me. Thank you

  6. Lida Rose Waretnick says:

    I wonder why FB is constantly prompting you with the “Friends/People You Might Know” feature, if they don’t want you to make new friends? Most of them are friends of my friends anyway, and hence FB’s prompts! So dumb! :-\

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